I'm in need of help my boyfriend and I have been dating go a year and a bit he rang me telling me he going to a work do and that he would call in the morning I hqvent from him since I have his wallet and everything I'm so worried he might be cheating on me what do I do ?? 2. This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies. I feel any interactions should be allowed but also feel that if you're in a committed relationship and someone has an issue with a particular person your relationship comes first obviously and while you won't be "controlled" by your spouse you should definitely take their opinion into account and compromise and adjust behavior accordingly. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on,. It's kind of like the idea that Facebook ruins marriages. (We are both 29 btw) When I expressed my feelings of disagreement, he told me I'm being insane. I just know in my heart, I cannot be in another situation like I was with my ex, ever again. I worked yesterday and then picked up my daughter and then had dinner and met her dad at the park so he could take her for the night. Needless to say, the abuse of such substances can negatively affect decision-making. If you're secure and you have a personality, you should largely be able to fend for yourself at a family function. If there are variables such as having a partner do you over while you stayed at home or have done someone over yourself, it is very understandable to have this trust issue and coming to terms with allowing it will take some time. what do i do? But I would care if he went with women , J. like he would not like M. sitting drinking or dancing with men. Inevitably he DOES get hit on by both men and women. My boyfriend wants to go clubbing alone My boyfriend of one year who is long distance at the moment thinks it would be totally fine for him to go to a club by himself. I just want to hear stories of people whose SO goes out with his/her friends and your ok with it? Here's the thing he knows you are uncomfortable with it, doesn't push it with you, and you still gave him the green light. Learn to trust your partner. So I decided to grab a drink at the local dive bar that I love. It isn't driven by insecurity. SO he was not to be trusted. Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. But there's obviously cases where the spouse is comfortable with the environment like you described J. M. so I don't see an issue. The premiere was later recognized as the all-time most successful cable series launch, with DVR viewers the . CinnamonRoll I on the other hand don't know a single woman who is attracted to other women. My husband works at a bar on the weekends. Make out you are. So my wife and I go out to this bar pretty much every Wednesday night for Karaoke. You can't get mad at him for spending time with his friends, just like he doesn't have the right to get mad at you for hanging out with your friends in return. So no - when we were dating I did go out dancing quite a bit with my girlfriends - and of course we were hit on - but I never went home with anyone or to anyone other than my hubs. I arrived alone and I left alone. By She dumped me for a guy she met there one night. I toned down my friendliness over the years to make him more comfortable. The Desperado is a frequent fixture at the bar. I can honestly say that I never knew women were generally attracted to other women. i dont really know how to feel about this. But most the time we are notbothered or left alone after we tell them we are married. going out alone indicates infedlity " potentially" or alcoholism. I don't understand why everyone flipped out about single people going out together. My boyfriend was a loner but when he made an effort to date me, he knew exactly what respect and proper behavior was. This is a question that I have asked a few women and the answer is always "mindblowing". I do the same thing for a girls night out. Did he actually love me? We don't go to meet new people--we go to have girl time. "met" virtually.). I wouldn't like the kind of relationships you are talking about, being with people(men or women) that I don't know well or interact with regularly. I think that is how the trust goes both ways. To us, our family is our priority and they come first. Clubs and bars are places to find one night stand and occasional sex partners. That's a different matter. Um, not if you don't let it. We had been friends and pen pals for years. And I have to laugh at that "allowed to go out without your boyfriend" line you posted.sounds like that fellow wouldn't have been good boyfriend material, even if you had been single! My husband LOVES when I take off to the pub for a pint and a good read. But, that's not the point of your post so I digress. "And if . But when it seems like there's a sharp increase in time apart, that's not a good sign for your relationship.". My bf lives in the same town as me but i only see him when he`s not stoned or drunk. We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. I'm married. He has the right to have a life, gosh. Do the same to him hun. I did have one guy ask M. to dinner after the annoying compliments you hear at such establishments and I replied that I had a boyfriend and he kept talking but kept asking how I was allowed to go out without my boyfriend. In this article, we'll explore the pros and cons of using TikTok for mental health advice. . However if he was taking his single female intern out J. the two of them for drinksI would have a problem with thatif they go to lunch I really don't mind because it is usually because they are far away from the office on a site visit and go get something to eat. That's why I wouldn't go out to a bar without my SO. NO. honey, if you are not doing anything you are not sopossed to to, then dont give it another thought. I think that he asked that question confirms why you have your specific boyfriend and why that guy is not said boyfriend. I'm 36 and he is 40, with two young kids who are adorable. My SIL and I have this conversation a lot as she feels differently about it than I do. If your boyfriend suggests that your jealousy is irrational, ask him how he might feel if he were in your shoes. I went to see my boyfriend in the worst place in Vancouver downtown and he was standing outside of the bar and this was late at night by the way. Instead, men should conduct themselves. that can be too easily taken as "I AM AVAILABLE!" Thats not appropriate for our relationship. You get worried when you see your partner with someone else. Im sorry for saying all this, its not that i dont trust you its just i'd prefer you to be honest with me and tell me the truth rather than putting up with everything, it would make it easier for the both of us and our relationship! He is very trusthworthy and honest, etc. 1. So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. Having solo hobbies like attending a weekend yoga class, playing a sport with friends, or exploring new coffee shops without your coffee-despising partner isn't a bad thing, but if your partner does these six activities without you, they're checked out of the relationship and the two of you might need to have an honest conversation about what's really going on. I do think it is okay to have opposite sex friends. Its putting trust into the OTHER person. Am I being gas lighted? Good luck. (You won't be happy if your wife is gone every night.) I think you need to face up to that and . I saw some people I know and I guess we go there enough, some of the staff know M. by sight. Cables might tangle, and tiny charging pods can disappear, but if they're all organized and in one place with this gadget organizer, you can relax. I want him to be with M. because he wants to, not because he isn't allowed to go and meet anybody else. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. It can feel like a never-ending cycle of disappointment and rejection, leaving you wondering if you'll ever find a meaningful connection. Suggest your wife that she can have time for herself too. But that's J. M.! I want to flirt, touch and pay lots of attention to him. He knows I'll come home relaxed and happy. The second time he disappointed me was when he got so angry at me because he had an argument with his friends. Which causes you to start to question yourself (like M. today LOL) reading too much into it you know? I can tell you as a man, that he appreciates that, it shows trust, it shows that you are trying to grow in the relationship, and it shows that you love and care that he take time for himself. UH. You don't want to make it awkward and post up at the bar, quietly waiting. I do not care at all. She may be looking for love or just hungry for attention. People go to bars..why? It's not about permission but about respect because we don't want the other to feel uncomfortable. My Long Distance Girlfriend won't video call with me. Enjoy those evenings when he is out and look forward to the next time you see him. Usually guys will start going to the bar alone if they are starting to build up the guts to cheat. So drinking isn't something we *enjoy* doing. LOTS of women purposely go after married men. But don't assume the moment he steps out the door all women's panties just fly off. 05-17-2012, 01:53 PM steve1282 : Location: Dallas. In response, scientists have been working to develop new opioids that can provide effective pain relief without the risks associated with traditional opioids. I think a lot of the nervousness comes from being worried about looking like a loner or a weirdo, but when you . We asked if we could use the gift certificate right then for lunch and still get the $5 off coupon. New episodes air Mondays on Facebook. aweeeeeeee you're bf sounds amazing ! Am I allowed to go to them on my own? Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk What did you do guys if you really really miss someone but you dont want to text or call him? It seems like you really enjoy the attention so maybe your current relationship isn't up to par? Also, my bf will flirt with girls, and I find out about it the next daythis doesn't make me too happy. Like whatever, I love him so much that I could do anything for him but who am I to fool I can't stand this any longer. The answer is to behave appropriately while there. We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. Don't listen to the people commenting below they are giving you the advice, they "think" is right. FYI, I am 50..Never too old to have a good time, with my husband, without my husband but with friends.. Never lose yourself. I would personally feel like a prisoner if he didnt "allow" it and would find it unhealthy. "Whereas happy, committed couples tend to spend more time with couple friends and doing things together. Track his every move know what he is doing all the time put a tracking chip on him shut up!! Having a "Guys" night. If they're traveling for a friend or family member's bachelor or bachelorette party, for instance, you might not be invited, so leaving you behind doesn't mean that they're pulling away. Its not ****ing baseball. Kelly1988 If everyone is happy and fully informed, then well done and furthermore none of my business. Being married does not mean you are a Monk or not a part of the world. As for what anyone else thought, it was irrelevant. Yes, if you've provided all the details. As many said, you have to take your spouses comfort level into consideration. Doesn't bother M.. Now, if he were encouraging sexual relationships with other people I WOULD be bothered. Now if he went to a place like that by himself I woudl worry something was up for 2 reasons. He would probably be pretty darn red too. He is the most amazing person in the world and I just don't know what to do. Your feelings are valid. Go out one night and iignore his calls till the next day and then just say oh sorry baby I was wicked drunk. But I've certainly made myself a margarita at home alone :) If I were to do that, or my husband were to do that, I personally would think that's odd -- or 'something' is up (due to our personalities, not because we don't trust one another). wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without (Even if we've J. I have more guy friennds than girlfriends. I thought this was an interesting point of view, and it made sense because women are in touch with the emotional side of attraction more than men are. Now sometimes I will go out ot a bar with some of my friends. My boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me a By entering this site you declare I don't understand how people have a problem with hanging out and not to flame here, at least to M., it screams insecurity. I wouldn't want to tempt her or her M.. Good relationships are too hard to come by and I wouldn't want to jepordize one. So, I told him i dont want him to feel he has to ask me whenever he wants to do anything. Big difference. Well, honestly, he only goes once every week-2 weeks. If her spouse or at least one co-worker were there, then no problem, but not one on one (unintentional pun). "But if your partner has started going out more and leaving you at home, that could indicate that they've got one foot out the door. Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. A bar you've been to with him and women are frequently coming to say hi to him, hugging him, getting his attention. It was a relief not going anymore. he just seemed super down about how his life is going, is this why i might be feeling so neglected by him? It wouldn't matter who it was it would be that they don't want to be around us that would bug M., ya know? There's really very little I can do to *make* him act with integrity and honor, besides doing so myself. You have to put trust into each other. I am one of those guys who doesn't drink often so when I do I also end up on a couch somewhere but I have good friends who protect me .won't let me drive etc.. Im in a long distance relationship myself, like we're in two different continents, it kind of ***** but its cool at the same time! HOWEVERI think you don't have much to worry about. "I guess it depends from one man to another. Fast forward to today, I had an awesome girlfriend, whom I encouraged to have her own life outside our relationship. This is emotionally manipulative behavior. This could be a sign of cheating because he is projecting onto you. I am in a relationship with this guy for the past 3.5 months. It's totally not like that. 1. help!!! Bars are not not my scene. Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. But it is a sign he isn't that serious about you, and no, its not because he is too drunk or passed out. Like I said before, lots of "casual meetings over drinks" have turned into affairs. You have to trust that he's just enjoying the company of his bros: drinking beers, talking smack and telling dirty jokes. Sorry, but I think that's wrong. Dont fall for this my life is in the hole either. My boyfriend M 23 is losing feelings for me F 20 and idk what to do. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. 1. The "Cool" way to think. Can Guys Just Be Friends with Girls? My advice - Hangout with your friends, go places that interest you without him and make sure he knows your having fun without him but don't rub it in his face. I have also felt the "most women are bisexual" opinion to be not true in my circles. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. I have been there a few times for lunch alone to do some of my paperwork and did not want to have to cook or clean up at home. I am ok with him going once a week as long as it is only guys. its not good at what hes doing, but if its a long distance relationship theres nothing u can do, my guy just lives half hour away from me..pity things cant be just simple.. I'm in the same situation. LDR's are hard for both parties but your boyfreind sounds selfish and callous. He TEXTS YOU while he's OUT WITH THE BOYS?! He wanted to go to bars CONSTANTLY. Waiting outside the bar for your friends is also weird. By all means. Even if you don't actually go out. You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? No. It is so **** hard that I can't leave but I know I have a choice and it is difficult. try it, be honest, truthful, and if its meant to be, its meant to be. We've been going there for about 3 months now. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. I go with the women, some bring husbands and there are occasionally some of thier male friends that wander in. But when it seems to be an all night thing and it's an always and never, those are telling signs that something isn't normal. Thats fine, because it isnt like I want to get permission every time I want to have a drink with my gf or go out for a girls night out. I feel for you. At first i let him do it until thats all he would do and i barely got to spend time with him. What does it mean when a man call & text you several times every day eventh My Boyfriend doesn't like if I call him from his name. He had work but still a simple text would've done. So..he and I need to discuss all this, and if he's not willing to change, I may have to walk. I'm personally not attracted to women. While they can be highly effective in reducing pain, they also come with a high risk of addiction and overdose. You know, if you're meeting up with friends at a bar and you get there early. ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, 21 hours ago, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:16 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:24 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:29 PM, By pastoralcucumbers With us its always all good because we know with who, where and why the other person is going out. He goes with a buddy of his. Lots of ladies (myself included) go out to meet friends without spouses to bars, and any bar is going to have single people in it. If you have an open relationship that should be discussed . Is it okay for a boyfriend or girlfriend to go out to bars or clubs without you twice a week? Does that make sense? I have talked to too many girls and guys that bitterly recalled how one drink too many let their inhibitions lower enough that they got too huggy and hormones took over ending a relationship. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on, psychotherapist Kimberly Hershenson tells Romper in an email exchange. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. my boyfriend goes out all night and doesnt call or text me at all..we are in a long distance relationship and the next day he gives me excuses like i was "too drunk" and passed out. I agree with you on the money issue. about 60-70 % of all females at Los Angeles bars are already taken and there with girlfriends or they are actually there with their boyfriends lmao. She doesnt mean ask permission. Of course I do, but the first time he says "I forbid you" is the time he gets a laugh in his face. Does my husband go out to bars without M.? Are you his parole officer or his girlfriend? Not very often. The whole idea that you never go without each other to parties is quite frankly absurd. Do I flirt with guys at bars when I'm out with friends? But we can do that because we are older and have an understanding of what we want out of life. Anyone that cant handle that isnt ready for a real relationship. While telling him your problem just say I know its long distance which makes it hard for the both of us but I feel like I wanna talk to you more, and it worries me that you're always drinking and im afraid that there might be another girl out there. Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. It would be awkward coz we usually hang out with each other alongside other people. We J. like to know where the other one is, more for safety than out of paranoia or concerns of cheating. I cook for my friends (plural). I feel like that is dangerous behavior. The thing last time he said he wouldn't get drunk and he did. Luckily, we have every other weekend to ourselves when our kids are at our ex's house. I think if your spouse or boyfriend does mind you doing that, that is what is important.not what others think. I read a story and call it. So back to your question. i have a hard time trusting he's not hooking up with another girl..i have talked to him before how i wish he would call me, but we always end up fightingwhere do i go from here..is this a big deal or something not to be concerned about. It's one thing for your girlfriend to go partying without you and another for her to go without even informing you. He would not even go somewhere like that without M. J. cause that's who he is. I have not a single reason to? When guys go to strip clubs to ogle "hot . "[I]f you find that your partner is more engaged with text messaging friends or on social media when you're with them, this is a sign that they are not present in the relationship," Hershenson says. It's okay to relax. We don't forbid each other from seeing anyone. He aint changing especially if you arent there. That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. I tried to make friends with the girls, but it didnt help because when he made a comment about how good she looked in the thong, it showed no regard for me. Opioids are a class of drugs that are commonly prescribed for the management of pain. It is all because of my trust issue. If I should meet another man, I see no reason not to remain friends with this man. I did. He is away but he is not gone. However, I also don't see a problem with going to lunch with a coworker from the opposite sex as long as it was completely platonic. Now I don't know how he would feel or a possible future boyfriend would feel. He just wants you to look the other way. But even if I could go out it wouldn't be to a bar. He doesnt have time for meim so depressed and sad. My husband knows how I am with and with out ( I act the same way no matter what) him and he has no problem with it. Each family and marriage/relationship should be striving to find its own balance which has its foundations resting upon fundamentals such as love, trust, hard word and communication. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. S. My husband doesn't like it when I go out to bars or clubs without him but if I want to go hang out with the girls every so often I can and I do go. Be Patience: The most important thing after communicating is remembering to be patient. But, to each his own! and remind him that you both can talk about anything! Seriously . ? See how he likes it. Some men J. have very flirtatious personalities. Yes I go out without my husband and he without M. in mixed company. Press the ignition button, then turn on the gas; press and hold it again for three seconds, not four or two or you might as well start from the beginning. if its a guys night out and its like 10 buddys sure, if hes going by himself, somethings a foot.Going out with your buddys is homosocial behavior, A typical of men. But just letting your SO know where youre going or what youll be doing is very simple. By the time my husband and I got married, we were so done with bars/clubs/discos (this was the 80's). The alternative is to . Before telling your partner something like this, pragmatism demands some thought first to how much you're asking and expecting a person to change. It's his choice whether he visits strip clubs, and you're also entitled to your feelings about it. It's good "guy" time doesn't bother M. Now, if it was a strip club he was going to, my answer would then be no :). I can understand how those people who *enjoy* drinking, will likely go out often to do it. Be In Touch with Him. To avoid another broken heart caused by dating insecure men, here are 15 signs of insecurity to watch out for. My issue here is probably from my past. I did the club scene in college, but that kinda got out of my system too. He texts you while he's out with the boys? Karmic Relationships: What They Are & When To Leave, According To Experts, 5-Ingredient Meals That Everyone In The Family Will Love, 30 Women's History Month Facts That'll Remind You How Badass Women Are, 8 Black-Owned Parenting & Baby Brands To Try, What Parents Are Talking About Delivered Straight To Your Inbox, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. Probably. I have never really understood the "allowed" part I guess. He is free to go where he wants and so am I but we make choices to do and go places that honor our marriage and protect it at all costs. Of course I was a little disappointed but then he got mad and I had to accept it because I didn't want to lose him. When youre in a relationship, only YOU know the rules that you have. My husband HATES it!! That's called a rule change. Not all of your friends or theirs will definitely be in relationships at the same time, so it's not necessarily a red flag if they plan dinner out with one of their single friends, but if hanging out with their single friends without you starts taking priority over spending time with you, that might mean that something is wrong. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. It wasnt just that, he was a flirt. Nearly everyone is guilty of giving their phone or other electronics too much attention from time to time, but if your partner is always so entrenched in what's going on elsewhere, it could be because they're no longer invested in what's going on between the two of you. If I had asked questions, and made a couple comments, I am sure I could have had a hundred thousand posts by now too. Maybe you happen to have a lot of bi-sexual friends. I trust him to make choices that won't betray my needs and wishes (this wasn't always true). Boyfriends are different than husbands. I am a single Mom so I am almost never without my kids. No. So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! We purchased the gift cert from the bar so we were seated in that section. Like doing some. Also, you've officially met a women who has no attraction whatsoever to other women!! But everyone has different needs, and desires. Ok, I have answered all those other posts you mentioned so I will on yours as well. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. And you allow that? Although it's good for your relationship for both your and your partner to do things without the other person, some of the specific things that they (or you) do alone can actually give you some insight into how they're feeling about the relationship. what do I do? 2) Your boyfriend texts you the whole time..that's great! A group of people going out, no problem. If you recognize that your partner does these things without you, it doesn't mean that the relationship is definitely over, but it does probably mean that there's some sort of problem there. I would not judge, unless it was something a man or woman was doing to pick up one night stands.. Delivery & Pickup Options - 59 reviews of LongHorn Steakhouse "We went for lunch on a Saturday. 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